Tonight I will be attending a televised debate hosted by ABC News Nightline. Watch the Youtube Video to get the gist of it.
The Debate: Arguing it is difficult for a successful black woman to find an equal match will be Emmy award-winning co-host of "The View" Sherri Shepherd and Jacque Reid, star of VHI's "Let's Talk About Pep." Arguing that single black women need to look beyond stereotypes when finding a man will be "CSI: NY" actor/writer Hill Harper and Jimi Izrael, author of The Denzel Principle. The tall task of moderating the fireworks required a tandem approach: comedian/self-styled romance expert Steve Harvey and "Nightline" correspondent Vicki Mabrey will be at the helm.
I will be meeting the debaters and moderators for a press brief before the event, because I’m covering it for Hope for Women Magazine(stay tuned for the article next week) But in the meantime I would like to get your responses. You could be included in the column, “Why aren’t Black Successful Women Married?”
1 comments:
Dee, thanks for sharing this. As a black woman who didn't marry until 29, I realized that some of my standards were ill-conceived, like wanting a "rough-neck" guy with some muscles. I allowed the Lord to open my eyes to see a wonderful caring man who didn't have edge or "that body," but he was what I needed. What I also realized was that some black men were intimidated by my intelligence, confidence and degrees, and some of them I may have given reason to feel intimidated; I used to be haughty and say my attitude was just confidence. There is a difference. So while smart successful women shouldn't apologize or dumb down to make men feel better about themselves, there should always be humility. You don't have to be a strong black woman that tells a brother that you are a strong black woman and "don't need no man to take care of me."
As a Christian woman, I stand firm on 1 Peter 3:1 that tells wives to win over with actions not words their husband who isn't right. I would say to single women: Continue to be who God made you to be but you don't have to shout who you are and your accomplishments from the rooftops. The women in this clip seemed to be this way and not the strong black women that say "I don't need a man 'cuz I can take care of myself." I'm glad to hear they wouldn't mind dating outside of their race and I do hope they are humble.
Rhonda J. Smith
http://musingsofastrongblackwoman.wordpress.com
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