Thursday, September 20, 2007

Did Eve love Adam?

My friend, Manchild has raised a great discussion that has Christians and non-believers engaged in a great, provocative and cordial debate. One reason I think his discussion is going so well is because he has been very open about his own questions regarding this faith. Check it out.

But what about Eve? Here’s where this epic love story gets interesting because some traditional, long-standing assumptions have been made about the first family’s divinely ordained marriage. Has anybody else out there in the blogosphere ever ponder the possibility that Eve never felt the same way about Adam?

Nowhere in the Scriptures does it ever say that Eve “loved” Adam. But don’t take my word for it, take a look for yourself and tell me what you find. Can it be that Eve just wasn’t that into Adam? Maybe Adam didn’t “fit the profile,” didn’t “measure up,” didn’t meet her expectations.


But before you go I have a question for you. As a Christian writer my characters grapple with tragedy, life disappointments with humor and a whole lot of faith. The novel series I have been writing about for a while is this character that's borderline black sheep and hell-raiser. She has damaged her relationships. She doesn't believe that she can be good enough. She's a single mom and she doesn't think that she's good at that, either. Like me. She wonders if the good ol' faith of her grandmother's generation is still around.

Question: Are we different than the writers before us? If not, then why we do have so much questions? Are we losing our faith? Or are we moving to a new destiny?

Next Wednesday please join me on the Abundant Solutions Hour Radio Show, as I talk about these changes, writing trends, and the urban inspiration movement.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Greetings Dee,

Interesting question. The first thing that came to mind was, yes, Eve did love Adam. After she was created, the Garden of Eden was still a heavenly place, just the way Father God had designed it. Remember, Eve was formed from Adam's rib. You just can't get much more intimate than that!

After sin was introduced into the world, both Eve and Adam were exposed to the lies of the enemy. It would be hard for me to believe that Eve would "size up" Adam, because they just didn't have the Western view of relations between the sexes. Just one woman's point of view.

Anonymous said...

I think it's unreasonable to ponder, "Did Eve love Adam?" Why would God create perfection with imperfection?

Adam and Eve both failed to obey God. After that, the desire to truly love each other faced those same things we as women and men now face today with our sin natures hassling us every step of the way.

The women's libbers want desperately to believe that Eve was "stuck" with this dreadful man when, in fact, they were created for each other. The role of Eve was perfect for her--she didn't "resent" it or "gripe" about it until after sin entered their lives and made them self-centered.

She was beguiled by the interesting concept presented her by the father of lies, and Adam succumbed to it as well, forfeiting his leadership and position in the family, making it harder for the following generations to survive intact because of the inherited sinful nature he was passing on.

I have no problem with reasonable questions, and Manchild's were thoughtfully expressed. However, some questions are just brain exercises and border on the "Prove it" mentality when, really, no proof is necessary beyond the examples given.

It is "impossible to please" God without faith. Faith requires a heavy dose of the "Wow" factor. In others words, I don't get to have proof beyond what I'm reading here.

Marriages generally fail because people give up on each other or rush into unions with the one God has not made for them. Marriage is a marathon, a major challenge, a dying to self to survive, a desire to put another ahead of ourselves--none of it easy. Bad marriages usually start with disobedience and end with the same.

Sorry I went so long, Dee.

Unknown said...

Hey, Veronica. Are you coming to the crit group meeting in October? I miss my Write-or-Die chicks. :)

My contention is that for any woman who have loved a man then there is a emotion that cannot be described that buttresses Eve's position. You know what I mean? There's a man that has had a hold of us before we knew him, and he always knows us when he sees us. :)

But what I liked about Manchild's discussion and you have to read it. He's building a building study is how the question and the comments were handled.

I read many Christian blogs that turn into this legalese crap and misses the point entirely, a point that the entry is for us to discuss. What I loved about the post is that--if you read through the comments--there are people who aren't believers, but who have questions...And this questions--to me--suggests that God is calling them. So I wonder what to we need to do to not just call them, but make them feel safe enough to meet The Father for themselves?

Thanks so much for stopping by and dropping your woman's wisdom.

Unknown said...

Nicole, don't apologize for sharing your truth no matter how long it may be.

If you read my comment to Veronica, then you know my fascination with Manchild's discussion.

There are lost sheep out there, who can't find themselves back to Christ because their lost in translation.

Take for instant the Utah polygamist minister on trial. I won't judge this man or his church. However, the media will spotlight this case not to debunk Christianity, but to sell papers. This sensationalist type stuff sells papers. You never read in the paper about a modest church that is helping its community and growing in the Body of Christ. As a former christian news reporter, you won't find that in our newspapers either, because Christians would rather read about Juanita Bynum's latest CD or Beth Moore's latest bible study series. Quiet, soul stirring, authentic living doesn't sell a product and thus can't for any paper.

However, I believe that blogging is important, because we can share the good news in our own communities without having to cater to our sponsors, if we have any. (I', always looking for sponsors :) )

Thanks for posting and please keep posting.

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